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It's all about understanding what makes a marriage work.

When Clinton was in office, they asked someone else if HIS wife would forgive him if he had an affair and it became national news.
He said, "In that situation, the last thing i would experience would be lying in a pool of my own blood, listening to my wife's voice asking 'Dammit, how do you reload this damned thing?'"

He understood what makes a marriage work: Compromise. We don't do what'll piss you off, you don't make us regret living. Compromise.

Or, as we men call it: Fear.
Fear is a powerful motivator to reach a compromise. My sister was so afraid that i'd acted 'normal' for just long enough to fool some innocent into marrying me that she wanted to make it clear just what she was getting into...
First thing she said after meeting my fiance was how wonderful it was to know that her future sister in law had a level head, a good sense of humor and could kick my ass three ways from Sunday.

If you're six years married, (Congrats, to you two, too) there's probably not too much advice or warning i could offer. But just in case:

The angry person is the one that sleeps on the couch. If you're not angry enough to sleep on the couch rather than next to your partner, you're not angry. Deal.

The one who asks for a divorce takes the children. If you want to break up the team, it'd better be worth it.

The difference between one child and two children is not all that great. The difference between two and three children is worse than the difference between no children and one child. Once you have more independently mobile responsibilities with situational deafness than you have hands, your life changes in unimaginable ways.

Other than that, it's pretty much all as described in the tech manual.

We did go from one to three in the space of 10 minutes. But i come from an extended family with numerous instances of variation to observe and, to an extent, participate in.

Three children is the point where the camel is more greatly stressed. Two children can be controlled easily by one parent (excepting gender differences and the restroom at the mall). But lacking a third arm or at the very least a prehensile tail, three kids is a major challenge for the species.
"Go ahead, I'll watch the kids" changes from an offer to a sacrifice.